Better Thinking • Parker Pens

I am a sentimental soul. My sister might refer to me as a hoarder but I see myself as a collector of memories. Over Christmas we watched the film Inside Out, which if you haven’t seen it, is a beautiful Pixar film about the importance of the core memories in your childhood and all the influences that make you the person you grow up to become. 

I consciously collect and squash into shoe boxes and dog eared gift boxes, plane tickets, champagne corks with the date and occasion of why we popped them scrawled around the rim and the glittery creations the boys have made and handed me with such pride in their eyes as they race out of their classrooms.

I keep little things that provoke big memories. My girl guide sash complete with hand sewn badges, my nursery school workbooks from when we lived in Bahrain when I was 3, to University halls of residence t-shirts and pieces I was allowed to keep when we lost my grandparents. I have my granny’s suitcase filled with packs of cards from their bridge playing days, a little embellished match box that sat on their mantlepiece and her handwritten recipe book, amongst lots of other little things dotted around our home. 

My cousin has my grandpa’s traditional writing desk in her home office, he always kept it immaculately organised, letter opener to the right, magnifying glass to the right, or at least that’s how I remember it. He sat at his desk in their study and opened each letter carefully and precisely, then took his pen and noted down any tasks or responses required. I remember both of their gentle penmanship, ink eloquently drawn on paper, with flow and such class. My granny had an enviable and natural italic style and my grandpa wrote holding his fountain pen between his second and third fingers after he was shot serving in the army.

I only remember them writing in ink, and it always felt so special receiving a letter from them, knowing the ritual and routine they would have gone through, sat at the desk, collecting their thoughts and then putting pen to paper. One of our family treasures is my grandpa’s Parker fountain pen, which must be over 50 years old! 

So when Parker sent me one of their new Sonnet range fountain pens as part of their Better Thinking campaign, I couldn’t wait to compare them and see how their distinctive and timeless design has evolved. The iconic arrow clip just invites you to run your fingers over the three subtle grooves and the sound when you release the cap leaves a satisfying pop in the air. I have never held such a beautiful pen in my fingers, an 18k gold nib so shiny, you can see your own reflection, masked only by the precision etchings crossing the centre. 

They are masters of their meticulous craft. And it makes you feel like you could rewrite the prettiest calligraphy or prose. It makes me want to write like I am a conductor in a grand orchestra, waving the Ciselé pattern design wildly over the page in long fluid stokes. From the moment you lift the grey cloth lid of the cushioned box to snapping the cartridge into place, there is a glorious ritual that makes me smile. I don’t know whether it’s the silky smooth grip, gold plated trim, the weight of the jet black cylindrical barrel, or the ebony ink that gently flows from the nib but it makes the words on the paper feel worthy of greater consideration.

It makes me want to rush less. I scribble notes all the time, on scrap bits of paper, on the bottom of diary pages and on the backs of letters stuffed in their book bags from school. But when you write with a fountain pen you want to take more time. Consider what you really want to say, what deserves to be detailed forever in black and white. 

I wanted to start my own book, but being a terrible cook I knew a recipe book like my beloved granny’s wasn’t something I would start and stick to. But then my sister gave me a copy of The Flower Recipe book and I had a light bulb moment. All through the year I arrange and rearrange my own floral arrangements and displays on our painted blue Edwardian sideboard in the sitting room. I tilt my head, stand back and tease vases into position, sometimes with ridiculously precise symmetry, only to find the wobbly floors and wonky ceilings means the centre is never the absolute mid point! I share photos on my Instagram feed and I thought it would be a lovely sentiment to document and record all my own flower recipes.

I want to create a scrap book of ideas, with photos from my feed, write down what species and stems I used and what vessels and vases I placed them in. All these posies and home made bouquets have brought me so much joy over the year. I love looking back at the seasonal blooms I bought from local florists and the incredible flowers and foliage my neighbour delivered, in bursting black buckets from her garden each week, from my birthday right through to the middle of October. 

And a special book, one I am going to add to over the coming years, deserves thought and special care. And I couldn’t think of a more beautiful way to record it than with my new Parker pen.

A collaboration with Parker.

#CapturingColour • Win £100 Rose and Grey Interiors Voucher

Hello to a brand new year of capturing colour. I don't know about you but these seemingly endless grey days are getting me down, so every day I look for the colour in my pocket of the world. 

I may not have turquoise blue seas to hand, tropical palm trees, brightly coloured pool inflatables but I have brightly coloured papers, flowers from the garden and some gorgeous new home accessories from Rose and Grey! I make my own sunshine when there's none shining from the sky.

As much as I love our neutral white and grey walls, I need an injection of colour in our home decor. Upstairs we have renovated the guest bedroom (which I will share soon) in a nautical colour palette of red white and blue in a coastal meets country style. White wicker and red bed blankets, blue stripe blinds and painted furniture. Our bedroom and en-suite is the next room update after we have the whole house ripped apart for new heating, plumbing and electrics. I think we will need to move out for at least a week - one for the dust and two for the pain of having to watch all the walls and floor get knocked about! I have fallen in love with the blush rose tones that continue to dominate home styling and need to decide whether to combine our dark wood bedroom furniture with such a delicate colour scheme or whether we should give it all a lick of furniture paint as a quick makeover project. 

I am finally committing to wallpaper in the hallway. It feels like a very bold statement and it's taken 6 months to decide which print I want to walk past every day! It needs a splash of whimsy and fun to balance the cool white walls and dark wood herringbone floor. Roll on the 18th when it's being hung and I can share some photos.

January feels like the month where you analyse your home don't you think? A time when you've cleared away all the clutter of Christmas and suddenly your rooms feels bigger and brighter and you start spotting all the nicks and marks everywhere. We had the stairway painted and when the sun hits the landing all I can see are the ripples of sticky fingers which slide down the walls every day! I want to keep it white for now to help bounce light into the upstairs but need to update our three big window frame photo collages that have been sat in the garage since we moved. The pictures are currently black and white but I am wondering whether to print new favourites in colour this time to bring some warmth to the stairs. Decisions, decisions.

I love how everyone is looking for colour too and the #capturingcolour gallery is just a visual delight. A couple shy of 27,000 posts joining in with seeking out every colour of the rainbow.

I loved these beautiful soft tones, the muted pink hues and the calmness in each frame. Pop over to Instagram and find these lovely accounts to follow. 

I think it's quite fitting that we have officially started a new year of #capturingcolour on a January Monday - for some reason I feel those Monday blues that but harder in January!

For the next fortnight I will be joining colourful forces with Rose and Grey to bring you some of their beautiful products and give you the chance to win £100 voucher to spend on some goodies for your home.

Rose and Grey was founded by a husband and wife team with two boys, including an Ollie like me! I love how they mix vintage and modern styles, and it's a treat to collaborate with a thriving family business who adore that modern heritage style I love. Exposed brick mixed with dark woods and white as a backdrop to pops of colour.

We tucked into a family brunch on Sunday and the fabric lined bread baskets made it feel just that little more special

I'm actually tempted to squirrel them into my office and use them for all my ribbons and stationery bits, they fit perfectly under my desk riser and will be the perfect excuse to reorganise all my twines and tapes!

They are so handy to keep all my dried petals and little props in for photos... I can see them never entering the kitchen again!

I am on a mission to sort my desk and office space this January too, there's paper and pens and scrap bits of material everywhere and I totally believe in the principle of a tidy desk equals a tidy mind. I need physical space to give myself mental space if that makes any sense?! I have lusted after this baby pink toolbox forever and it is just the right size for all my craft supplies. Long enough for my roll of hessian I use every week and deep enough for pots of paint and small tins of spray paint. But before I filled it with glue guns and left over confetti supplies I couldn't resist snapping some photos with a few flowers from the garden. Can you believe the daffodils are out already?!

The perfect prop for some Spring inspired photographs before I filled it up with glittery string! 

I've been decorating the house with poppy seed heads and corns dried from my neighbours garden. I love the calmness of the neutral colour palette for the sitting room, the mix of greys and blues with the warmth of the sun kissed husks. 

An everlasting bouquet that is sitting pretty in this bubble vase, on an old butler tray and stand I picked up at an antique centre over Christmas. 

For your chance to win a £100 from Rose and Grey all you have to do is share a photo to Instagram and tag #capturingcolour. 

To qualify for the give-away you must tag @roseandgreyinteriors in your photo, comment or caption and follow on Instagram.

Find Rose and Grey HERE.

Entries close at midnight GMT 24th January 2016.

Open to UK residents only. 

Good luck and we can't wait to see your colourful captures. Good luck!

35 Before I'm 35 To Do List

35. Thirrrrrrty five?! How can this be? I can remember as clear as day playing in my primary school fields, jumping over the backs of my school friends, playing leap frog with my blue checked summer school dress blowing in the wind. 

But here I am and it feels like a bit of a milestone. The age when you start checking a new box on online forms. It makes me almost shudder. But then I think about all the amazing things we have achieved, all that has happened since my 30th (pre blog) breast-feeding on Barry beach and 35 doesn't seem so bad!

But there are things I have put off, things I have stalled on and it's time to stop dawdling and get on. Commit and focus, and there's nothing more satisfying than ticking off a list is there?! So here it is. 

1. Join the National Trust so that I can get closer to this beautiful island at Stourhead. And stop writing things on lists when you’ve already done them to make myself feel better. Whoops. Hooray number one done this weekend!

2. Take my beautiful antique eternity ring Rich bought me when Ollie was born to a jewellers to be repaired. I lost a diamond from it a while ago and it's sat sadly in my jewellery box ever since. 

3. Commit to a beauty regime. I hurriedly wipe my face with baby wipes every night and not the glossy grown up wipes - the Johnsons pink sensitive baby bum wipes. The ones I wipe the boys grubby mouths with after they've slurped down an ice cream on a hot summer's day, the ones I use in a state of panic to clean the bathroom sink when my in laws are about to arrive. My sister despairs. I must start looking after my face so any tips will be gratefully received! 

4. Learn to feel more comfortable in front of the camera. I have photo libraries full of pictures of the children, of Rich and the boys, of the places we have been but not so many with me in them. I don't want to miss these days and always be the one behind the lens. And if possible learn how to have my photo taken without a cheesy grin. 

I try the whole sultry side glance, the smiling at my shoes and feel like a prize wally. 

5. Host a dinner party for our new school friends. Joining a new school is always tricky, especially in Year 2. Three schools in three years has meant we haven't put down real roots at a primary school, but we are settled now, I am going to join the PTA and we have this new gang of people who make us laugh, are kind, and who we are going to watch our children grow up together with.

6. Read the magazines I buy and not just make beautiful piles on the coffee table. Sit with a cup of tea and just read.

7. Buy an old piano and have it painted, maybe not quite as bold as this beauty I spied on the Jersey Shore boardwalk, but ready and waiting for my big boy practise on. He has asked if he can take lessons this term and we couldn't be more thrilled. I wish I had kept up my piano lessons when I was 5. Music is something I have never mastered and I just can't seem to compute the notes on a page!

8. Take the boys to a country we’ve never been to before.

9. Fly to America and hold my new niece.

10. Give my boy the happiest Horrible Histories party.

11. Make a birthday cake, from scratch. No cheating.

12. Blog our trips to New York and Paris. 

13. Let them be little. I have become a terrible helicopter parent. Ushering them around the house, marching them upstairs for a shower (the baths have been broken almost since the day we moved in) with military discipline and spending dinner times talking through an endless stream of don't sit like that, don't do that, put your knife like this and that... It's exhausting for me and it must be so tiring for them! They just want to have fun. So walking upstairs is so much better riding on our backs telling us to giddy up. Making faces against the shower glass is so much more rewarding for both of us than me sitting on my phone scrolling through Instagram seeing what might have updated in the last 3 minutes. We do those things just not enough. I want them to have the childhood I had; barefoot games of forty forty in the garden, watching films under duvets on wet Sunday mornings and shows behind the living room curtain stage. I want to keep them little and let them have the freedom to make their own fun. 

14. Take the boys to watch their first musical in the West End.

15. Clear out my wardrobe. Organise summer clothes and vacuum pack them for the loft. Yes it’s a cliché but losing weight is on my list before my birthday. I’m curvy and I don’t like it. I will never be a size 10 but I need to get out of my 14s and back in the wardrobe of 12s.

16. More water less wine. Might help with number 15 ;)

17. Buy a pair of vintage ice skates. Every time I see a pair at a fair or car boot sale I kick myself that I left them behind. 

18. Learn how to take videos. My mum has hours and hours of footage from my childhood. Videos where you can hear the zoom lens creaking forward and back, birthday parties, buildings dens with blankets on a wet week in Southbourne with my cousins. I have snippets of the boys, fleeting iPhone moments, but not real stories, roundups of a special trip or an ordinary weekend. I've signed up to this fantastic MAKE FILMS course with a blogging friend of mine Xanthe Berkeley which starts tomorrow! I feel like committing to her course is a way of finally pushing myself out of my photo comfort zone.

19. Watch a sunset and sleep in a tent in the garden.

20. Watch 50 Shades of Grey and see what all the fuss was about.

21. Ride my bike once a week. 

22. Collate a book pitch. Not pitch it, just get it ready for when the time is right.

23. Make a decision on my new logo and branding from the lovely designer. The umming and aahing is going on too long.

24. Get my product site live. 2 years in the making is just embarrassing!

25. Take my boys to another festival.

26. Blog the festival we went to last Summer!

27. Practise shooting on manual. I’ve got stuck in my comfort zone and I shoot on auto pilot. Not auto but not full manual.

28. Learn how to use my sewing machine and make endless bunting to line the ceiling of the conservatory that we use as a playroom.

29. Blog our house renovations. In a year we have changed so much but this year we have ambitious plans. We have a heating system and electrics to rewire through the whole house, windows to replace, a bathroom, bedroom and en-suite project to research and undertake and plans for the garden.

We've spent so many weekends away this past year and this year I want to have as many friends and family to stay. To lay out a beautiful table in the garden with fairy lights strung in the trees and wrap under blankets on a balmy October night when there's only just a hint of Autumn in the air. To light the fires next Christmas and have an open house for everyone and anyone who wants to eat, drink and be merry!

30. Really commit to improving the boys' behaviour. The boys have been pushing the boundaries over the last couple of months, finding their voices and testing us to the limits some days! We know full well that we make lots of empty threats and it doesn't help the boys know when they can and can't cross the line, or sometimes where that line is. 

We have best friends who we constantly learn from. They have 2 boys and they are so well mannered, such good company and are growing up like cousins to our boys. They are just like any other children but our friends have used great ideas to encourage good behaviour and control the bad. One thing we have started for January is the marble jar. We sat down at dinner and drew up a list of house rules. Things we would like the boys to manage better, like losing their tempers and dramatically stamping their feet, fighting with each other to the point of tears, taking some responsibility for helping in the house like clearing their plates and setting the table. We have committed to no phones at the table, no teasing, (That one is for Rich who has mercilessly been teasing Sammy about his love of the girls in his class. He's such a Romeo in the making and Rich has turned into that embarrassing dad.) no shouting (Mostly from me.) and limiting screen time, amongst other things like planning meals together. I realised that if I kept a diary of how much time they spend on a screen I would be horrified. It doesn't seem that long, but those minutes to give us a bit more of a lie in on a weekend and the time that whizzes by after school before bath time on a dark winter's night, when the TV is just on in the background, has got too long. 

For every good act of helpful, kind or thoughtful behaviour we pop a marble in the jar. And when the jar is full they can choose a treat. Ollie has already got his eye on a magazine all about the human body and every time it flashes up on the TV during his precious half an hour he exclaims "I so would like that when my jar is full!"

We just need to follow through. 

31. Spend a day on a photo walk in Cornwall with my 17 year old nephew who knows more about photography than than I do.

32. Make an annual girl's day out with my sister and mum. Last year we took her to Buckingham Palace for her 60th and we said to each other why don't we do this sort of thing ever?! Just once a year we should make a special occasion of not needing an occasion!

33. Start a collection. One to build on for the next 35 years. Any good ideas? I like the thought of something practical, things I can use, like old knives or chopping boards...

 

34. I have realised how little time I spend with Ollie on our own. I've blinked and my baby is a school boy. I want to make sure I make an effort to do ordinary things with him, without the distraction of his more vocal showman older brother. 

We talked about his birthday party tonight and at the moment he is obsessed with rock music, so it was no surprise that he would like a music festival in the garden! Of course the party planner in me was like woo hoo, but after we sat together and looked through a few American websites at festival party ware, balloons and themed sweets (hoorah for visiting Uncle Pat in April and bringing some US party supplies home in a spare suitcase) and they'd gone to bed, I thought about how this could be our thing. We could plan it together, maybe create a little scrapbook of ideas, go to the park just us and have party meetings on the swings! We could test out the playlist and have dancing competitions in the living room and generally just spend some extra time together. For a long time he's been a Dada's boy and I'd love to get back some of that early closeness we shared. Snuggle together and read more, play through our collection of his favourite board games like we did over Christmas. 

35. ???

So what should I put as the finale to my list? I'd love to add share more behind the scenes like this. What do you think? I have until the 5th August so as much as I'd love to put some exotic travel destination or see safari animals in the wild, I might have to save that for a 40 before I'm 40 list! What would you have on your pre-birthday list? Do you go with the flow and see what life brings or are you a planner like me?!

Bring on the birthday, bring on the next 8 months of adventures, I hope you'll come with me for the ride!

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